This is a brand spanking new ANTENATAL WEEKEND that TBTBC Midwife team are offering to expectant couples of the Cotswolds and beyond. It’s a jam-packed weekend filled to the brim to totally prep you for birth and baby in a great country setting with scrummy food, surrounded by other like-minded, expectant couples.
This weekend is designed specifically for couples who find attending a weekly course challenging to fit around other commitments and who want the benefits of meeting other pregnant couples from a group course. We’ve built this course for you.
Being a midwife, I see so frequently how antenatal classes make a difference to women and couples, both in the delivery room and after with their baby. So I have put together this course with the goal that you…
✨Have an antenatal course from a midwife who SEES BIRTH and CARES FOR women and partners in the delivery room and the immediate time after. Who works in Gloucester so that all the information you will get is up to date and relevant to where you will be giving birth. So that the information given to you is real, honest with practical tips that really work.
✨Know what to expect with having a baby and as new parents. To know what is normal and what is not. How to keep your baby safe and well.
✨Have a tribe of mums/dads so that you can share the highs and lows of parenthood with and you have someone to message in the 2am club.
It will cover everything you need to know about birth from an active birth to cesareans and everything in between, all led by midwives who help expectant mothers and fathers during birth in their day to day work. Life with a newborn and those early days are also covered, from how to feed your baby, signs of a well fed baby, bathing, nappy changing, what’s normal and what’s not.
I’m keen to add to the social factor as it is so important to find your village. The classes are really chilled, so relaxed that we have lunch together as a group, two courses off Cowley Manors delicious menu. There’s also a bar at the venue, the partners usually make use of this to have a beer at break.
Remember if you want to add Hypnobirthing to your Bump to Baby Chapter you can do so with a 30% discount for booking an antenatal course with us too. You can also access our post natal courses for FREE when your baby is born, including Sleep, Colic, Reflux and Weaning.
Venue: Cowley Manor, Near Cheltenham, Gloucestershire, GL53 9NL
Saturday 14th and 15th September 2019 (Due dates October- December)
Time: 10 am start both days – itinerary to follow- 4pm finish. (Overnight stay not included.)
Your mum squad. Your sisterhood in motherhood. Your tribe. Your village. Your 3am crew.
Being lonely was the one thing I worried about in pregnancy. One of my friends had told me it was the loneliest thing she had ever done. I’ve always had a good group of friends but we are all at different stages of our lives or too far away from each other that I wanted to meet new people that I could share my new journey with. Which is why I signed up to The Bump to Baby Chapter antenatal classes.
Four weeks after giving birth I went to my first buggy walk, and that’s how my mum Squad started forming. I arrived on my own, not really knowing anyone. I was terrified. I got talking to another new Mum and we realised that our babies were born on the same day. Birthday twins. We also realised that we lived round the corner from each other – it was definitely meant to be. We agreed to go to our local baby group together the following week. On our walks to and from the baby group we started getting to know each other and realised we had a lot in common, same age, same university, similar degrees, been with our other halves for the same amount of time. I felt so lucky to meet someone that I felt so comfortable with so quickly.
We were both keen to talk to and make friends with other people. Enter the next two people to join our Mum squad. One of the Mum’s walked into the babygroup on her own, and I immediately spotted her and asked if she wanted to be my friend (I wish I was exaggerating). We were sat next to another Mum who seemed a bit quiet so I asked her the same thing. I then did this again with two new Mum’s who came together with their tiny babies. It was then that the Mum squad fully formed and we created a WhatsApp group. It was after this that we decided we would try and make friends with a new Mum every week and there are now twelve of us. Twelve truly amazing Mumma’s. (They reassure me that they love how bold I was and that they enjoyed being taken under our wing).
We buggy walk together, we go to babygroup together, we support each other, we reassure each other and we laugh with each other. These girls are one of the best things about being a Mumma.
One of the things I love is that all our stories are different. From our age and our background, to our pregnancies and our births. None of that matters, what matters in that we are all on this crazy rollercoaster together.
Get out there. Go to baby groups, go to the buggy walk. Talk to new people. Find your tribe.
You can catch Sam at EVERY buggy walk as she is a push it real good buggy walker through and through. She’s always a friendly face to look for if you’re new. You can also hear more from Sam and her ramblings of Mum life over on her blog…
Mothercare hosts Welcome to The Club events for expectant parents
– Featuring interactive talks on pregnancy and maternity style led by top parenting experts –
mothercare, the UK’s leading parenting retailer, has partnered with a team of top parenting experts, including Zoe De Pass of @DressLikeaMum, to host a series of interactive events, offering honest advice and tips to expectant parents.
The free Welcome to the Club events, held in mothercare stores across the UK, are designed to arm guests with essential information and support to help prepare for a new arrival and the first few weeks of parenthood.
As well as personal shopping experiences and exclusive discounts, guests will be invited to enjoy a series of free workshops and talks led by experts, including:
Maternity style without compromise with Zoe De Pass of @DressLikeaMum: The mother of two and fashion blogger, on a mission to challenge misconceptions of dressing like a mum, will share her shopping tips and style advice for mums-to-be. Zoe will introduce her picks from mothercare’s capsule collection ‘THE EDIT’, including trend-led separates and dresses that can be mixed and matched to offer fashionable yet comfortable solutions to dressing during pregnancy and nursing.
Ask a midwife… Pregnancy myth-busting with Beth Kitt of The Bump to Baby Chapter: From baby brain to night sweats,midwife and author Beth Kitt, will be on hand to answer guests’ questions, plus dispel pregnancy myths for curious parents-to-be. With years of experience in midwifery, Beth will share invaluable tips on pregnancy and surviving the first few weeks with a new baby.
mothercare’s Welcome to The Club events will take place on:
Thursday 5th October, 12 – 2pm at the mothercare Bristol store (12b, Cribbs Causeway Retail Park, Lysander Rd, Patchway, Bristol BS34 5UL)
Thursday 9th November, 12 – 2pm at the mothercare London Greenwich store (Unit B Brocklebank Retail Park, 3 Brocklebank Road, London SE7 7FR)
Places are limited so book early to avoid disappointment.
About Welcome To The Club: The interactive events are part of mothercare’s new Welcome to the Club campaign and consists of a series of partnerships, videos, events and new product launches, all designed to unite mums and dads to take on parenting together. Welcome to the Club features the likes of @mother_of_daughters, @dresslikeamum, @cherryhealy and @london_dad, as they tackle everything from maternity style and what to pack in your hospital bag, through to how to calm a crying baby and potty training.
We have been nominated for our FIRST AWARD !!! Wooohoooooo!!!! Yippee!!
The award is for the Gloucestershires Best Pregnancy Support Service with Cheltenhammaman and we are absolutely jumping for joy, air-punching kind of happy that we have even been nominated for this so thank you kind sirs/madams for the nomination.
Now it is down to the public vote… which is where we need you.
If you have enjoyed reading our pregnancy blogs or positive birth stories…
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If we have walked with you on a buggy walk…
If any of the above are you then we are asking you to show your appreciation by clicking on the link and voting for The Bump to Baby Chapter.
Thank you for all your continued support.. We love what we do and hope you can tell!
I was so over pregnancy. So over being a waddling, water hog unable to lie on my tummy and restricted by my own body. Ungrateful mummy to be, just desperate to meet my little girl and hold her in my arms. The longing to see her was a constant gnawing ache and when that wait went over the finish line, well frankly I was like an ants nest on the attack. For my personal sanity I taught my final spin class at 40 weeks and hoped to ride her out… but no cigar… no little baby.
The greatest achievement of my ridiculous life so far came into the world three days late, doing even better than her mother when it comes to poor time keeping, and that, you gorgeous people, is my focus in this blog… my daughter’s helter skelter journey head first into life.
Before I go into full gory details I want you to hold this thought in your mind, especially if you are a preggo and bossing it but worried about labour… I would genuinely a squillion, million times go through my labour again over being pregnant, genuinely.
It started off as a hope, I hoped my waters had broken but it turns out they hadn’t. However, the midwives were concerned about the lack of fluid surrounding baby girl so it was agreed induction by pessary would be tried. My body was so desperate to meet my girl though that it got too excited, hit overdrive, and intense contractions started after about ten minutes. Buglet wasn’t happy and had a “braddy”, queue panic and me being prepped for an emergency c-section with hubby and I staring at each other super worried about this little life that we had created. Initially I had thought the midwife had said she was having a “paddy”, assuming she was just kicking off, and having a tantrum, thinking like mother like daughter, but, turns out her heart rate had dropped and things needed to pick up quickly. The little tease did pick up and the pessary was whipped out and c-section aborted.
Personally, I wanted to do everything to avoid a c-section so I sobbed with relief. Now, there is absolutely nothing wrong with a c-section, just a lot wrong with me and an incapability to stay still and not be an idiot when it comes to any healing process. I just knew if I had one I would be a nightmare and would put my family through constant worry that I would get an infected wound, whereas for some unknown reason, natural labour I felt would put m more in tune with my body and its capabilities. I really can’t explain the logic, as there is none, but that’s just how my thought processing works.
I was then induced very slowly by a drip and it was really at this point that I fell in love with every midwife and member of team there, especially the incredible Nina Kellow, who held my hand while my husband stroked my head during my terror at having my waters manually broken. It’s amazing how fear is simply a manifestation of the unknown, the mind always imagines a monster when given the chance to brood and worry, and that is where education from antenatal classes combined with lovely, caring midwives are essential, with their ability to swoop down and knock those demons away.
For four hours I laboured, breathing my way through contractions and using gas and air… even hubby had a cheeky sneak of it! Then after about two, I asked for an epidural and it was dreamy! I couldn’t feel the pain and the sickness of the gas and air was a distant memory. I was checked after four hours and had barely dilated any more… there was a history of a stubborn cervix, too scarred to budge so the lovely midwife and registrar gave it a helping hand as they knew how much I wanted to push her out myself and I was allowed another four hours. I’ve got to say all through his my man was a super hero… he did not leave my side, we lost all concept of night and day, we were just a team, I felt so supported, so safe and so loved. He cocooned our little family and together we watched our chrysalis reveal a butterfly. My parents, the amazing, Houdinis that they are, also dropped by, and seeing their faces, especially my mother’s, as my father was so close to the furthest wall from the bed that you’d be forgiven for mistaking him for the latest wallpaper design, made my tenacity harden and my mind strengthen. Still, Dad asking if I had watched “warship” mid contraction was answered with an eye rolling “bit busy now dad”.
So another four hours had passed and blessedly my cervix was fully dilated and I was given two hours to rest before the final push. Hubby took a towel and laid in the bathroom and I chatted to the latest amazing fairy godmother of a midwife in a surreal limbo knowing my daughter was just a couple of hours away from meeting her mummy and daddy.
When the big push came I had the cheerleading squad on hand. All the team were encouraging me to push, my husband was telling me how proud he was of me, I felt such a lioness as I pushed with all my might till I felt my eyes might pop out of my head. Little one teased again with a ‘Braddy’ so it ended up being forceps and an episiotomy, but I will never forget that final push. The overwhelming urge to get it done, to see my girl, to hold my husband’s hand, to end the labour, it’s like a cacophony of emotions coupled with a raw, primal instinct. That last push, oh that last push, I roared like a tiger and the registrar pulled with the forceps like an alligators death roll and my girl, my girl, my baby girl, was there, she was there; the IVF, the arguments, the heartaches, the failures, the issues of pregnancy, the months of going into the nursery fingering tiny baby grows wondering if I would ever get to meet her, the nights of tears, the nights of anger, the fears and the nerves, everything collided together and exploded in the moment I got to hold her in my arms, this perfect little creation, I looked into my husband’s eyes as if to say “look what I’ve done, we did it, we made it.”
That night at 00:50 on the 13th April 2017, Scarlett Evelyn Keble-Wyatt came into our lives, and she totally and utterly completes me, I have a love for her that overwhelms me. She has made my husband a Father and I am so unbelievably proud to say she has made my dreams come true for I’m a Mother now, and from now on it’s me and my girl.
Lottie Keble- Wyatt a.k.a Just The Girl Fitness is bringing a new exercise class called BABIES AT THE BARRE to Cheltenham. She will be hosting a Barre exercise class for all mamas who have young babies. Cheltenham and Gloucester Sling library will also be there to provide you and support you with choosing a sling that suits you and your baby. The launch of these new classes is on 25th June at the Wholefood Market Cheltenham. For more info or to get your tickets visit here.
Hi Hollie, thank you for taking the time to be interviewed by us here at The Bump to Baby Chapter. We love hypnobirthing but we also love how you have made it so relateable.
So first up…
Hollie de Cruz is the Founder of London Hypnobirthing and the creator of yesmum cards. She uses her Instagram platform @theyesmummum to inspire and promote education, equality and empowerment opportunities with a healthy sprinkling of positivity.
Beth: When did your hypnobirthing chapter begin?
Hollie: Before having my son I was working in a very male-dominated environment at a big corporate design agency. I worked really long hours, juggled stress and fun in equal measure and lived for the weekend. My pregnancy was completely unplanned, and I found that all quite frightening. None of my friends had children, in fact I’d never even held a newborn baby, let alone looked after one. As such, I felt pretty scared and disempowered. Then I stumbled upon the concept of hypnobirthing about half way through my own pregnancy and even though I was cynical at first it became a real game changer. Oscar’s birth was such a positive experience that I knew from the moment I held him I wanted to be involved in spreading the word of such an empowering movement for women, and that’s what inspired me to quit my job, train to become a hypnobirthing teacher and start building a business that I could run more flexibly around motherhood.
Beth: I’m sure you have had people saying ‘hypno.. what’ when you describe what you do. How do you explain hypnobirthing to people who have never heard of the concept?
Hollie: Hypnobirthing is a complete antenatal education programme that teaches you what happens in your body during labour and birth, and how to work with it rather than against it.
Although a lot of people (myself included many years ago) are put off by the slightly bats name (I even had one person refer to it as psychobirthing which did make me laugh!), hypnobirthing is in fact the most logical, gentle and profound form of birth education I have come across.
Hypnobirthing doesn’t promise a perfect birth, but it will give you the best birth for you and your baby at the time, and if you commit to small amounts of daily practice, you will create a positive, joyful experience that will stay with you and your baby for the rest of your lives.
Beth: There was a great reception from your recent talk during Life Death Whatever about Hypnobirthing. Hypnobirthing seems to be taking the pregnancy vortex by storm right now. What advice would you give to a mum when choosing a pregnancy class?
Hollie: Do a hypnobirthing course … obviously! It will be the best money you spend and it’s an amazing investment in not only your birth, but in your onwards journey as parents.
But seriously, I think it’s important to know the approach of the class you are choosing, many people go along with what others do/what’s considered to be the norm but it’s important to really look into your teacher and think about if their approach is right for you.
I work in a completely woman-centred way, which means me and my team get to know the families we work with and offer them bespoke and nurturing support. Our aim is to ensure the women we work with feel educated and completely held and supported on every step of their journey to motherhood and beyond. Understanding your labour, including any unexpected turns it may take, is what leads to a positive and empowering experience, and that is something every single woman deserves.
Beth: Why do you think hypnobirthing is becoming so popular?
Hollie: I think women are reverting to more natural birth options because we are becoming more empowered and educated in general. I think many women are beginning to question the over medicalisation of a normal physiological process, especially when they feel rushed or not listened to, and this is pushed forward when they hear their peers talking about positive birth experiences rather than horror stories. Our focus must be on normalising childbirth and putting the power back in women’s hands rather than dumping her in a conveyer belt system where she feels passive and out of control. When women are moving towards this in every other aspect of society, it seems appropriate that it should apply to birth – the most primal female experience – too. There’s also the very obvious concept of preparation as power. If you were running a marathon, taking a driving test or going for a job interview you’d put loads of time into preparing, and I think women are realising that “winging it” isn’t really the way to go for the most transformative moment in their life. Knowledge is power – every time.
Beth: Your award- winning Yesmum cards have reached out to so many. What is it about birth affirmation that you thought would make a real difference to pregnant mums and their birthing experience?
Hollie: We use a lot of positive affirmations in hypnobirthing as a way of ditching the embedded fear we have around birth and reprogramming the subconscious mind with positive messages about the experience. When we change the way we think, the way we experience things changes and I see this every day in my work with women (and myself). I really wanted to apply this to the next stage of the journey, and create a tool that mums could take with them through to motherhood and help continue all the positive, mindful work they’d enjoyed in pregnancy. And that’s when the idea of the YESMUM cards was born. I thought I’d just make 50 packs and see if any of my clients wanted to buy them, as well as giving some to friends to try out. They were more well received than I ever could have imagined, and it just goes to show how much we need this kind of simple positive reinforcement in our lives. When I put them on Instagram I had loads of people tagging their friends and saying “we need these” and it kind of took off from there. I now have six ranges for mothers, pregnant women, kids, entrepreneurs and, people on a wellbeing/health journey and humans (in general), and ship to every continent on a daily basis.
Beth: Today, we seem to be part of a society where the women supporting women game is strong. So from one woman to the hopefully hundreds of women who are reading this… Give us your favourite affirmation that will make us feel like we have got this. Only one!
Hollie: One of my favourite affirmations is “today is a new day”. It’s so tempting to haul around worry or guilt but actually every day brings a new opportunity to get in a good mindset and make small positive changes.
Beth: For the stay at home mums, full time, part time & self employed mums we all seem to struggle with finding time for ourselves, our family our jobs, hubby’s etc. So I think the big million dollar question is how do you tackle the work/mum/Hollie life balance?
Hollie: I think when you run your own business, work-life balance is always pretty tricky to enforce because you don’t have those boundaries of an office or a boss. Combine that with being a mother and it goes all kinds of crazy right? I often find myself feeling guilty for not doing anything well enough, so stopping the weekend/evening work (as hard as it is) is a big deal for me in putting better boundaries on my time. Nowadays, I’m a business woman during the day and a mother on evenings and weekends. Inevitably there will be overlap but I think setting the intention and enjoying the positive changes it brings will be enough to sustain it.
Beth: I for one have been brooding over your puppy. Little Ruby is just the cutest. Other than a walk in the woods with your new pooch, what do you do to stay calm and relaxed?
Hollie: Most of my spare moments are spent soaking up my gorgeous son, as time together feels so precious now that Oscar’s at school. He’s such an outdoorsy kid so we can normally be found in the park or at the BMX track, or playing top trumps over a pizza. In rare pockets of me-time though, I’ll go to the cinema (by myself – the best!), go and get a massage, read a book in a café with a massive coffee and eggs or if I’m feeling truly decadent – go back to bed with Ruby!
Beth: What’s next for the yesmummum in her quest for world domination?
Hollie: The golden question! For me it’s all about growing the company in an organic way to meet the needs of the groups of women I get to know. I can’t say too much about it at the moment, but our next project is all about getting birth education to people who wouldn’t necessarily access it because of different circumstances or financial situations. I believe all women deserve access to basic birth and women’s health education, so getting the ball rolling on that makes me really excited.